I feel it is a bit presumptuous of me to suggest a life lesson that would benefit everyone. What I see as important may not apply to anyone else … but, here goes!
Don’t give yourself a hard time! Speak kindly to yourself! Compliment yourself on things done well – it might be the only compliment you get!
Suck it up when things go wrong – but learn from it rather than give up or give in.
A lifetime ago I attended a seminar by Tom Hopkins who was a very popular real estate trainer from the US. I had never experienced anything like it before and it had a huge impact on me at the time. The one phrase that has stuck with me all my life since is “I never see failure as failure but as a learning experience.”
I’m sure I beat myself up as much as anyone else but not to the extent that I’m so far down a hole I can’t get out because I tell myself “Hey, that was a learning experience.”
… Sometimes I’m a slow learner 😊
So be kind to you. Don’t allow self-talk that belittles you. Be your own best friend. And never see failure as failure but as a learning opportunity.